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  • Being a dad....

    From Nigel Reed@1:124/5016 to Fidonet.DADS on Sun Feb 21 03:36:14 2021
    Is an interesting experience.

    When my wife told me she was pregant, I wasn't over enthused. In fact, my response was a sarcastic "congratulations". I started to think of all the things I wouldn't be able to do any more like play loud music, go to the bar and come in wasted, and stupid stuff like that. I went to some appointments
    and basically did what I needed to do.

    As soon as his head popped out, it seemed the like the whole world changed
    for. This was my son and I was going to be the best father I could be to him.

    My father worked long hours. We was gone to work before the sun came up and
    was often home after I had gone to bed. He worked hard to provide for us and I'll forever be thankful to him for that. I wanted to make sure I was around and about for him.

    Pop forwards 13 1/2 years and I'm an assistant coach on his hockey team. It's amazing to see the growth in him. He's always been kind, sensitive, sometimes overly so. Yet he's in there, battling for the puck and doing his best. He's smart and has been accepted for an alterate high school the district offers
    for advanced technical learning and gaining skills for technical jobs.

    My job also allows me to work from home so I can see him in the morning before he goes to school and I'm here when he gets back. Not that it matters much now because I'm just in the way of Minecraft or Fortnite lol. But still, he
    doesn't ever need to want for attention, love, or affection which, I hope,
    will make him a better person and keep him on the straight and narrow as he grows up.

    Ask me 13 1/2 years ago if I wanted to be a father and I'd have said that I wasn't
    ready. Ask me now, and I wouldn't change it for the world.
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  • From Deon George@3:633/509 to Nigel Reed on Sun Feb 21 22:42:45 2021
    Re: Being a dad....
    By: Nigel Reed to Fidonet.DADS on Sun Feb 21 2021 03:36 am

    Ask me 13 1/2 years ago if I wanted to be a father and I'd have said that I wasn't
    ready. Ask me now, and I wouldn't change it for the world.

    Its amazing what children do to you.

    I too for many years never wanted to be a Dad. It wasnt that I didnt want it, but more than I didnt think I could be a good one.

    During my wife's pregnancy, it wasnt all chocolates and roses. Being pregnant was difficult, it lasted 41 weeks and her labour lasted 36+hrs - as well as it all being new for the both of us.

    But the second my son was born - something changed. Here was this blob that I was now completely responsible for, which was further enhanced 2 years later by another blob, my daughter. Watching those blobs turn into little people, who go from knowing nothing to have learnt to communicate, walk, socialise and have opinions is just amazing, every day there is a new amazing something..

    I dont regret for one minute being an older Dad (than normal), because life experiences does have its advantages, but boy do I wish I went through this experience many years earlier - to only have enjoyed it for much longer.

    ...лоеп

    ... ARRRRRGGGHHH!!!!...Tension breaker, had to be done.
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  • From Nigel Reed@1:124/5016 to Deon George on Mon Feb 22 20:29:15 2021
    During my wife's pregnancy, it wasnt all chocolates and roses. Being pregnant was difficult, it lasted 41 weeks and her labour lasted 36+hrs - as well as it all being new for the both of us.

    My wife also went 41 weeks. We went to the birthing center at about 8pm and
    he popped out at 3:25 the next morning. It was pretty painless (well, for me anyway) lol.

    I highly recommend tracking down a birthing center. It was such a nice environment. They had a hot tum and shower, comfortable bed. There was a midwife and aide. The hospital was only a few minutes away in case of complications but they had a very low referal rate. I think we were a little reluctant to leave.

    But the second my son was born - something changed. Here was this blob that I was now completely responsible for, which was further enhanced 2 years later by another blob, my daughter. Watching those blobs turn into little people, who go from knowing nothing to have learnt to communicate, walk, socialise and have opinions is just amazing, every day there is a new amazing something..

    We decided..well, I think mostly, I decided that one is enough. It's hard to build on perfection.

    I dont regret for one minute being an older Dad (than normal), because life experiences does have its advantages, but boy do I wish I went through this experience many years earlier - to only have enjoyed it for much longer.

    I'm the same. I was 36 when he was born so I'll likely be long dead before he reaches is full potential. At least I can give him time up front. :)
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  • From Daryl Stout@1:19/33 to Nigel Reed on Mon Feb 22 22:41:00 2021
    Nigel,

    My wife also went 41 weeks. We went to the birthing center at about 8pm and he popped out at 3:25 the next morning. It was pretty painless
    (well, for me anyway) lol.

    That reminds me of a joke...hopefully, folks will see the humor in it. :)

    This man takes is expectant wife, in labor, into the hospital. The OB/GYN tells them "We have a new treatment to transfer all the pain from childbirth from the mother to the father". Momma was eager for that, and Dad (who had a high pain tolerance) figured "why not??".

    So, they wire both up for sound <G>, and the doctor keeps adjusting the settings, until their maxed out. Neither Momma or Dad had any pain, and
    she delivered a healthy baby boy.

    However, when they got home...the milkman was found dead on the porch. <G>

    Daryl

    ... If men could get pregnant, abortion would be a sacrament.
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  • From Ruben Figueroa@1:125/5014.1 to Daryl Stout on Mon Mar 1 20:41:46 2021
    So, they wire both up for sound <G>, and the doctor keeps adjusting
    the settings, until their maxed out. Neither Momma or Dad had any
    pain, and she delivered a healthy baby boy.

    However, when they got home...the milkman was found dead on the
    porch. <G>

    That got me going, Thanks Daryl.


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  • From Daryl Stout@1:19/33 to Ruben Figueroa on Wed Mar 17 21:05:00 2021
    Ruben,

    So, they wire both up for sound <G>, and the doctor keeps adjusting
    the settings, until their maxed out. Neither Momma or Dad had any
    pain, and she delivered a healthy baby boy.

    However, when they got home...the milkman was found dead on the
    porch. <G>

    That got me going, Thanks Daryl.

    Sure thing. Laughter is the best medicine.

    Daryl

    ... I left my tart in Aunt Fran's Crisco.
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