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Oh yes, you are free to detransition if you want, but I don't support
TERFs (trans-exclusionary radical feminists).

https://planettransgender.com/terf-detrans-a-dangerous-and-deadly-ideology/

The TERF practice of de-transitioning transgender women is a dangerous
and potentially deadly ideology. It is often carried out without
medically trained personal present in isolated locations the same as gay conversion ‘therapy’ used to be.

Detransitioning is built on falsehoods and lies. It’s not meant to
benefit anyone but TERFs who propagate this ideology. It’s purposefully deceitful drawing countless innocent lives into its sea of insanity. It
is a means to an end, to inflict harm on Transgender women, nothing
more, nothing less.

Why do this to us?

TERFs, (Transgender Exclusionary Radical Feminists) and assorted
right-wing politicos and religious cultists.

They seek out those of us who found our true selves in our gender before transitioning. This is no crime, transition is the process of
consciously evolving into more than we were the day before. Think
Barrack Obama and President Biden.

But curiously, TERFs (ala J.K. Rowling) only seek out Female to Male
(FTM) transitioning people. TERF’s believe that FTM people are murdered
by trans women if they live comfortably in their authentic gender.

Bizarro, right? Think Trump hate and ideology.

These people isolate trans masculine people from mainstream society and
teach them that they will be forgiven for any previous indiscretions If
only they follow their directions. If successful, they call their
newfound apostates “detransitioners” and then use this notoriety as a weapon of war to attack our community.

But this doesn’t always work as the TERF’s plan. Occasional an
individual rejects TERF indoctrination and escapes suicidal idolization.

Ky Schevers who for years lived in isolation at a TERF detrans
installation wrote..

Healing from the Past

I keep thinking back on what my life was like when I was at my most fanatical. I was working on a farm in Oregon. I didn’t know anyone in
the area. I was very depressed and hated myself. I felt like getting
drunk all the time but I was trying not to drink and was mostly
successful with that. I only had to do a few hours of work a day in
exchange for room and board, so I had lots of free time. I ended up
spending a lot of it online.

“I keep wondering why I turned to transphobic radical feminist ideology, why I helped create a weird “ex-trans” detrans subculture, why
I did a lot of things that seem pretty strange now. “

Read more…

Transphobia in the Detrans Women’s Community

During my time as a detrans woman, I said and did many things that
I now see as harmful and transphobic. At the time, I thought I was
acting in accordance with feminism and working in the best interest of transmasculine people. In my mind I was trying to help people, I would
never have acted as I did if I thought I was doing harm. Nonetheless, my motivations do not cancel out the harm of my actions, nor do they excuse
them.

Read more….

Confessions of a Former “Crypto-TERF”

Dishonesty was normalized in the radical feminist detrans women’s
community. While some of us were more upfront with our views than
others, most of us hid what we really thought from many of our friends
and acquaintances. We thought they were too steeped in patriarchal
culture or taken in by “trans ideology” to understand our views. If
people did show any sign of being receptive to our beliefs, we would
share what we thought they would find acceptable but hold back anything
they would find too extreme or offensive. …

Read more…

Working Towards Acceptance

When I detransitioned, I believed that I’d finally figured out what
I was and was in the process of solving my gender issues once and for
all. I didn’t think I’d be hit with intense doubts four-five years in.
It was shocking but at the same time unsurprising. I’d struggled with
having complicated gender feelings in the past and had long wished that
my sense of gender was more stable and simple. So while I hadn’t
expected these feelings to come back, I wasn’t totally surprised when
they did because this fit with past patterns. I’d tried several times to
make my gender less complex and ultimately failed each time. This
attempt had just taken a lot longer to fall through, and while
devastating, forced me to accept my genderweirdness in all its
complexity and chaos.

Read more…

Ky Schevers breaks free of TERF detrans ideology

Processing how other people had hurt me in the past for being a
dyke and a genderfreak was helpful but casting aside the trans parts of
myself was not. But I thought I had to do that to heal and claim a dyke identity. I didn’t. I can be a dyke and still be trans. I rejected being trans because I hated myself, I hated that part of myself. I wasn’t overcoming a dysfunctional coping mechanism, I was denying a part of
myself. Treating being trans as a delusion or false consciousness made
me more dissociated, not less. Not surprisingly, I suffered from boughts
of extreme depression during that time, feeling horrible about my
transition and time spent living as a trans person.

At the moment, I don’t feel particularly good about the time I spent detransitioning. I was suffering and trying out something that I thought
would help. I feel a huge sense of loss. I do regret detransitioning. I
don’t regret coming out as a dyke. I was a person trying to figure out
what I was. I regret falling for transphobic ideas. I regret that so
much. I regret turning against myself and other trans people.

Being trans isn’t about believing in any particular theory about
how sex and gender works, it’s not about being a member of a particular subculture, using certain words, having particular politics. For me,
it’s about lived experience, about navigating the world as a
genderweirdo with a history of medical transition. It’s about struggling
with gender dysphoria and experiencing myself as a female man. It’s
about feeling like both a woman and a man and different from women and
men at the same time.

Read more about Ky coming out…‘

Today, as we can see, Schevers has recanted this view, writes Evan
Urquhart at Slate. “According to her, like the ex-gays of the 1990s and 2000s—many of whom claimed they “overcame” their sexuality after religious conversion, only to reaffirm it later—some detransitioned
people still struggle in private against feelings of gender dysphoria
that they can never fully suppress. “It’s very similar to ex-gay communities where there’s a story out there that people ‘change’ and it’s great and everything,” she told me. “No one really changes. They learn to keep their desires under control.”

“Detransitioners may be a small group—even the highest estimates are in
the hundreds, compared with an estimated number of
transgender-identified people in the low millions—but they have been influential in pushing their denial that trans identity is real.
Publicly, detransitioners disavow not only their individual transition histories but also the fact that transition helps trans people worldwide
to live comfortably in their own skin. Although a few men also identify
as detransitioned, most of the community congregates in sex-exclusive
online forums for detransitioned women only. They believe gender
dysphoria is common among women and disappears when they learn to love
and accept their female bodies.”
Welcome back to reality Ky! You do you “a transmasculine butch dyke, genderqueer, something like that,” and I’ll do me (trans pansexual woman formally identifying as genderqueer), and we all live peacefully

So anyway how do TERFs know how to hurt us to the fifth degree? They
have walked the earth as long as we have. A little history told in part
from the first-person perspective.

Being transgender is widely seen as a death sentence. But denying our
true selves kills us anyway.

So begins groundhog day.

For those about to rock.

We begin our Friday evening going to thrift stores confidently
purchasing our attire. Then dressed, we venture out skills lacking
miserably, hopefully tragically seeking acceptance by every stranger we
see.

Sunday, the realization of our folly hits like a ton of bricks which
inevitably leads to purging.

Purging is for many gender-expansive individuals the most dreadful
thing. It comes in the early days of transition when we are most
vulnerable. It begins when a lightning bolt strikes and panic ensues
realizing that perhaps a friend or two or an employer saw you when you
have dressed authentically.

So you throw your clothes into a dumpster in some remote location and a
feeling of assuredness fills you with the knowledge perhaps you weren’t
seen and you can proceed with your life “normally”.

And Monday we go about our business as if nothing extraordinary
happened. Then a few weeks later groundhog day begins again.

Every transgender person has experienced this to some degree. We have
all fought for our right to live authentically and like gay people, we
can’t change our stripes.

If only TERFs and those assorted right-wing politicos and religious
cultists would agree we could live in harmony.

It’s easy. You be you and I’ll be me.

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