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Porking pigs. That's what they do in Oregon.
A polyamorous family is unsure which man has fathered their
children.
Couples Taya and Sean Hartless and Alysia and Tyler Rogers met
online three years ago in an attempt to keep things exciting.
After a year of spicing things up, the couples fell in love and
decided to move in together in Oregon.
Each couple already had a child but decided to welcome two more
tots together as a polyamorous family.
None of us had been polyamorous before, but we all just met and
fell in love, Taya explained to South West News Service. Since
we moved in together we all just co-parent all the children
were one big family unit.
The couples met in person in June 2019 after having an instant
spark and chatting online for several months.
From the first night we met, we all wanted to just see more of
each other. It wasnt easy there was a lot of hesitations
around having feelings. Sean was the first to point it out he
said, We cant deny this is happening. We agreed to talk it
out to see what the future would look like, Taya said.
At first, I was really scared to come out and admit my feelings
for Tyler I was scared to let someone else in. But,
eventually, we all admitted how we felt.
The foursome does not see people outside of the family and has a non-hierarchical relationship. While they try to have a quad
date once a month, they also have one-on-one dates but they
spend all holidays and big events together.
The families moved into a home early in 2020 and have happily
lived as a quad family since. The women each have their own
rooms, which the men rotate sleeping in each night.
The quad decided to expand their family after discovering they
were all excited about the idea. The women would continue to
sleep with both men and not question who fathered which child.
Alysia, who works outside the home in economic development,
happily discovered she was pregnant in August 2020, while stay-
at-home mom Taya became pregnant in March 2021.
There was no regulation of who the father was and we said we
didnt care. We dont know and dont want to know we said we
would all be parents to all of them, Taya explained to SWNS.
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Alysia gave birth to a boy on April 3, 2021. Taya gave birth to
another son a few months later on Aug. 11, 2021.
I always find myself thinking about how much I love our life.
Im just really excited for the future and raising our kids
together. I cant wait to be the big, crazy family that all
shows up together. Its a messy, hectic, crazy, wonderful life
that about sums us up! Taya said.
The kids proudly tell everyone that they have two moms and two
dads, with the children calling Taya mama and Alysia mom,
while Sean is daddy and Tyler is dad.
Stay-at-home mom Taya cares for the two youngest while Alysia,
Tyler who works as an electrician and Sean, who works at a
high school, go off to work.
People ask, Does it make a difference that one is not
biologically mine? But I have stayed home with him since he was
a few months old and there is nothing that would change my
relationship with him if I were biologically connected to him. I
find it very easy to love a child of any of the people that I
love thats the same for all the children.
Taya explained that many people question and dont understand
their relationship. The quad has faced pushback from some
close friends and family but has found support from the majority
of their inner circle.
A lot of people dont really understand polyamory and think it
is deviant or unwholesome in some way. It is true that it wasnt
always easy it took me a while to admit I had feelings for
someone else and we definitely do get jealous sometimes, Taya
admitted to SWNS.
But now its so natural to us all and I feel so grateful to
have multiple partners to raise children with, Taya continued.
Why wouldnt you want more love and support and more hands
around? Its a messy, hectic, crazy, wonderful life and I
cant think of anything else we could ever want.
Taya shared that, like all relationships, navigating an
unconventional relationship can be a tricky but worthwhile
process.
I dont think well ever stop learning and we know our
relationship will be constantly changing. But we will roll with
the punches and make it work, Taya said. We are different from
everyone else but thats OK and we have made it clear to our
children that they can be whoever they want to be.
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