On Tuesday, January 12, 2010 at 1:33:25 AM UTC,
VelvetAc...@gmail.com wrote:
Alright, I was fairly sexually active when I was 15/16. I don't recall
how, but at some point, I met a man well into his thirties, who for
whatever reason was a virgin. As far as I know, it was essentially
being caused by insecurity and shyness. For, he wasn't religious, it
did not apepar out of a lack of trying, or any diagnosable medical
condition, and/or social phobia.
He was a genuinely nice guy, and I felt bad for him. Nonetheless, I
was not at all attracted to him, and this was aside from the obvious
and inappropriate age gap. Ultimately, he reeked of desperation, and
he spoke of contemplating hiring a prostitute to get it over with.
Reflecting upon it, he could have very well had a serious mental
disorder, or perhaps he was just too nice of a guy. Although, I still wouldn't find attractive now. For in my memory, there was something
very awkward teenager about him; and for me stuff like that is a turn-
off, when it is present in extreme.
I'm not saying I want a casanova, but something can be said for the confidence that comes with experience or just having self-assurance.
So, if a virgin carries themself with some assurance, than it's
possible to forget their lack of experience.
In the time since then, I "dated" a guy in his mid-twenties, who had
slept with but one person, and not a great handful of times. When we
met, it had been several years, since he'd stopped seeing this woman,
and thus he had not had intercourse for seven years. In my eyes, this
made him pretty darn close to virginal. However, one would never know
it, as he did not act insecure about it for a second, and he possesed
a very open sensuality.
On Dec 4 2009, 8:59 pm, "Todd" <nos...@nospam.com> wrote:
I'm in my 30s. Developmental delays made friendship difficult and especially romantic relationship. I've only had one crush in my life. My brother told me that women love virgins. Is there more to life than masturbation, pics, mags, and porn? What do women think about old virgins? Thanks.
Hi VelvetAc,
Firstly, sorry for bumping this post but I found this thread interesting as it talks about older virgin males.
Well, my name is David, I am a white, very skinny male, I am almost 44 years old and I am very still much a virgin as I have never had a sexual relationship before. I get on well with people and they say that I'm a nice person too - I always believe in
doing as you mean to be done by. I have a pretty content life but I suppose I've always been pretty shy with starting a conversation with a girl who I may fancy.
As far as the closest thing to a sexual experience goes there were a couple of times I have been seen naked by young women although I don't think these really count as sexual though... The first time was when I was 32 and showering on my own at the
sports centre I go to. An attractive girl of 19/20 years old walked in, saw me completely nude and said, "Oh sorry, I thought my boyfriend was still here." I then said something like, "That's okay," while feeling slightly aroused that a pretty girl had
seen me with no clothes on (I had noticed that while talking to me she glanced at my genital area before making eye contact again). The second time was a couple of years ago when I had just finished doing a World Naked Bike Ride (WNBR), clad in only
socks, trainers and cycle helmet (in London) and all the cyclists congregated on St. James' park green where there are also lots of tourists around too. A group of 3 Japanese female university students (aged around 21) approached me asking if they could
have a photo of two of them each side of me doing victory signs. I didn't have a problem with that and was happy to pose for them where two of the females put an arm each around my shoulders and I put both my arms around there's. I must have had over
half a dozen photos taken of me naked and they even offered to take a photo using my own camera for me, which I accepted.
I suppose the thing is, my sexual inexperience with a girl would show as I would be blushing a lot but at the same time I would be nervous about ejaculating prematurely. You obviously have a lot of sexual experience yourself but would it put me at such a
disadvantage if I was to find a girl who is a lot more experienced than myself?
Thanks for reading.
David
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