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Hi. This is a follow-up to the messages
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June and October 2019 and alt.society.liberalism, alt.support.depression
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Here's an added section to
http://blogologue.com/c
Posted on the 6th of December, 2019.
So, this week I got an email from Justin Smith, leader of the family
welfare office in Mo i Rana. I was disturbed by this email, in addition
to behaviour he has displayed earlier. Here is that email.
Subject: A notice of concern regarding Justin Smith, leader of the
Norwegian family welfare office in Mo i Rana, and the family welware
offices in general
To:
postmottak@bufdir.no
Cc: Justin Smith <
justin.smith@bufetat.no>,
Lise Lydersen <
lise.lydersen@bufetat.no>,
Vebjørn Svidal <
vebjornsvidal@gmail.com>,
lillian.naerem@rana.kommune.no,
rana.tingrett@domstol.no,
post.trondelag@politiet.no,
Postmottak Nordland politidistrikt <
post.nordland@politiet.no>,
sylvakrogh@outlook.com
Hi.
I'm concerned regarding Justin Smith, as he displays a behaviour that is unsuitable, with regard to him being a leader that arbitrates in family conflicts, and has the role of overseeing [time parents have with their
kids], which I have gone to court to get, time with my kids.
Justin Smith has earlier this year (on the 16th of August), asked for a
meeting with regards to the supervised time I have with the kids. I said
yes to this meeting, and a few days later, I added some points which I
wanted to discuss. I sent a reminder regarding this meeting on the 17th
of September, and the 4th of October. Wanting to have this meeting was
also mentioned by me on the 13th of November, in an email about a new
round of arbitration.
I think Justin Smith is quite foggy and at times annoying to talk to,
and that the family welfare office in Mo i Rana and Trondheim, doesn't
come across in a way one might expect - as a neutral party for the best interest of the kids. Where their best interest is among other things,
to have [a good relation with their dad].
It seems for example that he [Justin, in conversations], waits for me to
say something, and then starts to say something, [to disrupt and/or
annoy me].
..the meeting [that Justin originally wanted] was never arranged, and a
couple of weeks ago, I called the family welfare office
(familievernkontoret i Mo i Rana) in Mo, and talked to Justin Smith.
There I suggested 2 alternatives for having the meeting. One was that
Bufetat (The Norwegian Directorate for Children, Youth and Family
Affairs ), paid for the travel expenses, where the meeting could take
place outside of the periods where I see the kids, the other was a
meeting over the phone, where I get to loan an office space from the
family welfare office in Trondheim (familivernkontoret i Trondheim).
Justin was negative to both of these alternatives. I then suggested a
third alternative, that I rent an office in Trondheim, and send the bill
to Bufetat. I did not catch a positive response to this. It is important
for the meeting to be able to speak openly, without [people that had no
right to hear confidential information being able to hear it].
This shows that several alternatives for having a meeting have been
suggested.
Justin knows, or should know, that it is an extremely small amount of
time I get with the kids compared to what I want, that the kids mom
[Hilde Olsen] only wants to share expenses for the cheapest transport
[added: about 500km each way on train] and not staying overnight in a
hotel, and that there has been a long conflict, and still is, between me
and the kids mom. And that I think it is important to get the most out
of the time I get with the kids.
I have previously said that I wanted arbitration about the parental resposibilities, where they live, time with parents etc. to be outside
of the periods I have time with the kids, to get the most out of these
times with the kids.
To then force in a meeting at 09:00, the exact same time as the time
with my kids starts, is therefore strange, and inconsiderate. It goes
without saying that this also limits the amount of time I can use on the meeting (talk about things I want/need to discuss), and that it disrupts
the execution of the time I have with the kids.
I think it is important to have good health, and for example regularly
check my blood pressure. The highest blood pressure I've had this year,
has been very close time-wise, to a visit to see the kids.
Attached is an email sent to Justin with points I wanted to discuss in
addition to what Justin wanted to discuss (
http://blogologue.com/justin1_en.txt ) , and an email sent from Justin
this week, with my answers (
http://blogologue.com/justin2_en.txt ).
Regards,
Morten
Attachment 1: justin1_en.txt:
Subject: Regarding contact meeting
To: Justin Smith <
justin.smith@bufetat.no>
From: Morten W. Petersen <
morphex@gmail.com>
Bcc: <
post.trondelag@politiet.no>
Hi Justin.
I don't have a place to talk that is completely private, so I thought I
could borrow a room at the family welfare office in Trondheim (familievernskontoret i Trondheim).
There are a couple of other things I want to discuss, so I'm suggesting
the following agenda:
1. The roles the family welfare office, visit supervisor etc. have
2. Execution of visit [time to see the kids]
3. Extension of visit [extension of time]
4. Parental responsibilities, why can one party refuse to share
information, when is this irresponsible
5. A walk through of history up until today, confidentiality, the
position of mothers and fathers in family matters [family cases], the
position of the parent the child is staying with.
I think we can say 15 minutes on each point.
I would like to have 15 minutes before and after the meeting on the
room, to prepare and close. I would like the meeting to take place in
the middle [of the calendar beetween time with the kids], in about 3 weeks.
I will probably want more meetings.
I want meetings as late as possible in the day.
I will record meetings.
Regards,
Morten
Attachment 2: justin2_en.txt:
Subject: Regarding practical matters
From: Justin Smith <
justin.smith@bufetat.no>
To: Morten W. Petersen <
morphex@gmail.com>
Hi!
On account of discussions with Bufetat (The Norwegian Directorate for
Children, Youth and Family Affairs), I have sent a registered letter
regarding the execution of a contact meeting / dialog meeting I advance
of the next visit to see the kids.
This must happen here. I will meet you at 09:00 on the account of my
role as contact person for the visit supervision. Otherwise, the time to
see the kids can go as planned immediately after the execution of our
meeting. In case you haven't gotten the letter, necessary information
will be given at the meeting.
You ask for the possibility of using a TV. There is a TV on the waiting
room. The practical matter can be arranged with the visit supervisor.
Regards,
Justin Smith
Leader of the family welfare office in Mo i Rana (familievernkontoret i Trondheim).
Response 1:
Subject: Re: Regarding practical matters
To: Justin Smith <
justin.smith@bufetat.no>
From: Morten W. Petersen <
morphex@gmail.com>
Cc: Lise Lydersen <
lise.lydersen@bufetat.no>,
post.trondelag@politiet.no
Hi Justin.
This is too a short notice. And I don't want a meeting [straight] in
advance of time with the kids.
I have more than enough to think about with regard to seeing the kids.
I refer to a recent telephone conversation [with you] where I suggest
meeting via the phone, or outside [calendar-wise] of periods I see the kids.
Regards,
Morten
Response 2:
Subject: Re: Regarding practical matters
To: Justin Smith <
justin.smith@bufetat.no>
From: Morten W. Petersen <
morphex@gmail.com>
On the other hand, I don't want to mess with cables etc. and break
something.
Then it is better that someone who knows how the TV is setup, makes an
HDMI cable available, or inserts a new one, and leaves some instructions.
Regards,
Morten
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