XPost: alt.society.liberalism, alt.support.depression

Hi there.

I've posted over a couple of months now on other newsgroups, but haven't
gotten much response. So I'm "widening the net" and posting to some
more groups, and sending a complete copy of what has been posted earlier.

For 6 years, I've been in a conflict in the kids mom, about seeing my
kids. I rejected a relationship to her, and she has made my life
difficult since then.

I'm a liberal, tolerant person, and believe that moms and dads should
have equal rights (alt.society.liberalism).

Being in a conflict for years is artificially depressing, and coming out
of a long period of psychosis, also can lead to depression (alt.support.depression).

I believe it is a basic right to be with your family, and it is a right
that is in practice denied to many fathers in Norway and other countries (soc.rights.human).

I could have written so much more, but I have to start somewhere, so
many, many more messages to come.

This is a follow-up to the messages

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Posted on alt.politics.europe.misc, alt.men.politics, alt.politics, alt.society.mental-health and talk.politics.misc in March and April 2019.

This post and previous messages are available at

http://blogologue.com/c

So, after a 6-year struggle with the kids mom, I've decided it is time
to start being a bit more structured, and present my case with some
critical documents.

Over years, the kids mom has made it difficult to see the kids, and she
has used 3 different lawyers over that period of time. Lately, the
husband of her twin sister, a police officer in Mo i Rana, has been a
contact person for her (I wouldn't say mediator, because he seems like
an extended windpipe for the kids mom, trolling along). In 2009 I got
severely sick, psychotic, and today I'm much better shape. In 2013, I
rejected a relationship with the kids mom, and that is the reason I see,
that she is making my life difficult.

According to the law, we should share expenses for traveling to see the
kids, but since 2013, the kids mom has not paid me what I understand is
a fair share, for my expenses.

In 2015, there was a court case, a court case which I lost, but in that
case, I gained the possibility of seeing my kids with supervision. I'm
still paying interest on this court case.

So on the one side, the kids mom is earning interest on a court case I
had to make, on the other side, she won't share expenses for seeing the
kids, according to the law.

This week, Monday the 25th of February 2019, I got a message that the
person supervising my visits with the kids, had become ill, and that
this meant that my visit to see the kids this Saturday the 2nd of March,
was cancelled. She has not been ill earlier, and she's been to quite a
few of these visits.

Straight after I got this email, I mailed the kids mom's contact person,
and 4-5 hours later, he replied that it wasn't possible to setup
something this Saturday in a public space, so I could get to see the
kids, or they could get to see me, as planned.

Those emails are linked here and here. It's relevant to add that the
kids mom's contact person, is a police officer, and that he likes to
reply to messages writing new messages, which makes it a bit difficult
to follow an email thread. He usually doesn't reply within the same thread.

So to recap that last bit, and to illustrate the situation that has been
going on for years; Monday there was a notification that the supervisor
for the visit Saturday was sick, the same day I got the message that it
wasn't possible for the kids mom to have the kids in a public space for
some hours on Saturday. Also, today Friday I got the message that the
kids mom was traveling away with the kids this weekend, so she quickly
made plans to travel somewhere else.

I'd say I've seen the kids less than 2 hours each month, since the
summer 2013, and that's even though I've been to every meeting about the
kids, and every meeting with the kids.

On the 21st of May 2018, I pressed charges against the kids mom. On the
7th of February this year, I pressed charges against the kids mom's
contact person, because he is a police officer and displays behaviour
that I find questionable for a police officer.

People that have been involved in this case for a long time from the
public sector, are Inger-Ritha Olsen, Justin Smith, Rubi Stjernen (communal/family health/supervision), Per-Martin Utkilen (police
internal affairs). All, or almost all emails sent in this case, have
been on copy to the Norwegian police.

This text is licensed under the CC Attribution, No derivatives license.

My email is morphex@gmail.com.

So, here's an added section to
http://blogologue.com/c

which was added on the evening of the 8th of March, 2019.

I think it's important to underline that today, with my financial
situation, it is difficult for me to go another round in court, because
if I lose the case, that is, if I "essentially" lose the case, I can get
the court costs of the kids mom, and the previous court costs and the
new ones, can become so large that it is impossible for me to service
that debt. The only way I can get to see the kids today, is by going to
court, to get court-appointed supervision, so I can have some time with
the kids.

With my experiences with the kids mom, I think there is something wrong
with her. If I was in a relationship, we could have broken that
relationship off, and that would have been pretty much it.

But I did get two kids with her, and this means that I have to deal with
the kids mom, as long as she is in a position where she has control over
the kids.

Now, to get down to why she has control over the kids, that is a long
story, but lets get it started.

In 2009, when I got psychotic around the birth of my first son, I had a business that was growing. After I got sick, I was partially working, to
keep the business running, and my business partner Stig Rune Øyra, was
doing a job keeping us up and running as well, more than what he usually
did.

So, alongside working, I was in treatment, both with medication that
alters the functioning of the brain, and going to psychologists and psychiatrists.

Fast forward to 2013, and the relationship with the kids mom had
deteriorated so much, that we broke up, she moved, and she took the kids
with her.

In the summer of 2013, I rejected a relationship with the kids mom, and
after this, it became difficult to see the kids.

In the summer of 2015, I was in court, to get to see the kids, and I did
get to see the kids, but lost the case, and this is where the court
costs come from, costs that I'm paying 1000 NOK a month on, which is
about 6% of my income, before taxes.

But, another financial part of this, is that I decided to work in the
company while I was sick, and when the hosting part was sold off to
Copyleft, because it was too demanding, the recurring income
disappeared, and the money that was in the bank accounts dwindled down.

If I had been smarter about the running of the business, I would have
been on a 100% of close to 100% sick leave, which would've left money in
the business.

Today, I could have borrowed money from the business, to pay off the
court debt to the kids mom, and had another round in court.

I think it is important to take responsibility for one's choices and
actions, because that's how you learn. But, in this situation where I essentially lost my business, lost contact with my kids and ended up in
a financial hole, I was medicated, mentally ill, and going to therapy.

I've been thinking about who is responsible for this, and it is
obviously me, but also NAV, the Norwegian combined unemployment office,
welfare office, pension administrator etc. It is also the healthcare
system, and the psychologists Gunnar Gotaas, Morten Mitsem, the
psychiatrist Daniel Molyneux, all working via Tiller DPS. My primary
care physician has since I've moved to Trondheim in 2010, been Thor Digre.

If I remember correctly, Gunnar Gotaas and Morten Mitsem were my
psychologists close to the trial, and Daniel Molyneux my psychiatrist
after the trial.

I've taken up problems with the kids mom with health personnel, and a
lot has been sent in written, documentable form to Daniel Molyneux and
Thor Digre, after the trial, so it can be proven.

In 2018, I found that my relationship with my primary care physician
Thor Digre, had deteriorated, and he asked me to find another primary
care physician. After some time, I did find a new primary care
physician, I waited a bit to see if Thor was serious. Before our
relationship deteriorated, I had taken up problems with the kids mom and
things related to that.

Towards the end of 2018, I've heard from others that I didn't look well,
and I've had some passing health problems that can be recurring in
nature later, which I didn't address with Thor Digre, because of our relationship issues.

As I'm writing this, it seems pretty clear to me, that multiple people
have done something wrong, or there is something wrong with the system.

I've experienced the kids mom as on the one side acting hurt, sad etc.
in family counseling, and right afterwards seeming happy, as if she was
playing a game, flirting etc.

The trial in 2015 was lost and I got the court costs, in big part
because of the findings of the court-appointed mental health
professionals, that found the kids mom to be "great". Sylva Krogh was
their representative in court, and I've blogged about them earlier.

They've changed their name, and they did so on the 31st of October 2017,
from INSTITUTT FOR KLINISK FOREBYGGENDE TILTAK - IKFT AS to KLINISK KOMPETANSETEAM AS. I guess it is relevant to point out also here, that
the business was started in July 2014, about half a year before they
were appointed by the court for the trial the summer 2015.

Anyway, they say the kids mom is great, and this to me, means that there
are a lot of women in Norway that are selfish and damaging to others and
that this is acceptable socially and culturally, or, that Sylva Krogh
and her colleagues have had ulterior motives, in corruption, serving
political and cultural interests, doing someone favours etc.

Mo i Rana is not that big of a place either, so I guess knowing that
someone could make your life difficult for years could also be a factor.

But, I'd like to think that they knew what they were doing, another
possible motive is that they need to keep the population numbers
growing, I've heard some mumbles/grumbles about women from Mo i Rana.

So there you have an overview of the healthcare/court side of this
story, I could give more details, but I've got more posts to make later.

This text is licensed under a CC Attribution, No derivatives license.

Here's an added section, posted on the 7th of April, 2019. It was also
posted on my blog, http://blogologue.com/blog_entry?id=1554648397X85.

Recently I was at a pharmacy, to pick up some Seroquel Depot medication,
at the Norwegian pharmacy chain Apotek1, their store at Heimdal.

I ordered 5 packs Seroquel depot 50mg online in their webshop, and
things looked fine.

I went to pick it up, and I was the last customer serviced that day. It
turned out that they did not have 5 packages available, and after some complaints from me, the pharmacist gave me a 150mg package of Seroquel
depot, and 2 50mg packages of Seroquel depot, which was an OK solution,
then and there.

However, I find it worrying that a pharmacy advertises, and makes it
possible to order important medication online, and when you come to pick
it up, it isn't available. I could've bought some packs before
traveling, I could've had few packs left at home etc. - and it is an inconvenience that they don't have important medication - AS PROMISED.

I've read online that the maximum concentration of medication in the
blood (and its effects and side-effects), can be different for a patient
taking 2x150mg of Seroquel depot, as opposed to 1x300mg of Seroquel depot.

I've been on the same dose of Seroquel for quite some time, on 50mg
tablets, and it has worked well, I'm in good shape.

However, I've also earlier experienced pharmacies (from other chains)
having few packs of Seroquel available, so overall, it seems that a
person that has emotional or cognitive problems, should keep a stash of medication at home. Which isn't a bad idea, because I see there are
shortages of some medications from time to time.

Apotek1 is a commercial chain of pharmacies, and they get their rules & regulations from the state. They are basically an extended arm of the
state healthcare system, when they dole out prescription medication.

I see that Seroquel depot is available in 50mg, 150mg, 200mg, 300mg,
400mg. But not 100mg.

I find that odd, and seeing that the dosage for various psychiatric
illnesses start at 150mg a day, I'm entertaining the possibility that
the medication is not available as expected, and the dose of each tablet
is setup, so that the healthcare system can manipulate the patient in
how they take medication, and how much.

I recently changed primary care physician, because the previous one was
a bit of a disaster, and I've talked to my new primary care physician
about wanting to reduce the amount of Seroquel I take, due to mental
side effects, as well as long-term physical side effects.

Thinking about how eager my old psychiatrist Daniel Molyneux was to get
me over on anti-depressants, and he, my old primary care physician Thor
Digre, and NAV - the state welfare system, was negative to me using
exercise as a way to manage and stabilize mood and manage physical
health, I do entertain the possibility that they have setup the
medication dosage, and the distribution system, so that they can fuck
with the medication.

And if they fuck with the medication in such a way, what else do they
see themselves are justified in doing? What else are they fucking with?

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Here's an added section, posted on the 20th of April, 2019. It was also
posted on my blog, http://blogologue.com/blog_entry?id=1555791759X12.
So, I've been in a conflict with the mother of my kids for 6 years now,
and for some time, her brother-in-law, a police officer in Mo i Rana,
Vebjørn Svidal, has been a contact person.

I've found his role questionable, in that he as a police officer, has
some authority and credibility, and that he then meddles with this
conflict, can give the kids mom credibility, because he is a police
officer and doesn't do anything about what's going on. For example,
reporting the kids mom to the child services.

I reported him to the internal affairs branch of the police, some more
info is on this page.

But long story short, the internal affairs dismissed my complaint, but
at the same time, forwarded it to the police district where he works.

In my complaint(s), I say that Vebjørn acts as an extended windpipe for
the kids mom, trolling along; and that she does not share expenses for
me seeing the kids, according to the law, and hasn't done so for 6
years. I write that his meddling in this conflict is questionable, and
that he must realize that he, being married to the twin sister of my
kids mom, is surrounded by people who can influence him, every day.

But also importantly, the internal affairs did not say that anything I
wrote is untrue. A complaint given to the police does have some weight
to it, as it is a bad idea, and can be punished by law, to lie to the
police.

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