The main problem here is religion. Think about it. You marry the Malay, u gotta convert. But unlike other religions, Islam is a one way street, a dead end. Let's say u convert and marry,but if u divorce, u can't get out of Islam. If u are convertingcos u happen to like the religion, do it. I got nothing to say. But if u wanna do it just to marry the girl and not because u like Islam, honestly speaking, you're fucked bro.
Plus, make sure that when u say you love her, it's your brain, not your dick telling u that. Lust is often confused with love. Think over it.perspectives. Remember that if u convert to marry her, u lose your family, but what if u convert,and still her parents won't let u marry her, or that u guys divorce, u will still be a Muslim, and still lose to your family. You will be a double loser!
Dude, ur talking about marrying a Malay girl. The problem isn't just getting married, it's staying married with her. Don't forget all the problems in between, the reputation of your family and hers. Chinese and Malays have different cultures and
Also, people can sacrifice everything for love. But sacrifice is both sides. If you are the one who has to convert, who has to change your lifestyle, who has to give up family and inheritance for her, ask yourself, what is she giving up for you? Herreligion? Family? Inheritance?
Also, sacrifice only what u have for her. But not family. People say, I am willing to give up family for love. Utter bullshit. Your parents gave u everything, even gave birth to you. U owe them everything. U belong to your family, they own you, so it'snot yours to give away. Instead,you are theirs to give away. U can ignore your familial bonds, but are you bring filial?
Plus, there will be ostrasization both for you and the girl. By asking u to convert, her parents are trying to protect her, the same ways your parents are fighting to protect you. In a country like Malaysia with such a strong Malay sentiment, it's ahella risky move man.
Remember the Maxim. Those who fall in love first are the losers. The problem is, they don't know their losers because they feel like winners. You only win when u are both in love and can marry. Otherwise, game over. You lose. Hopefully, u will findthis advice useful. From someone who has been there, done that and still struggling to make a clean break.
Can a Chinese guy marry a Malay girl without converting to Islam ? If the
guy convert to Islam
how would he face his parents ? He is the only son in the family. This has been the greatest pressure on him.
If the guy is not converting to Islam, the Malay girl would not able to face hers family, relatives and friends
after the marriage. Solution, do they have to migrate to foreign land like Canada, Australia or UK to
make things easier for both family ?
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