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Go fucking kill yourself!

Dear Prudence,

I am 19 years old, and a few months ago I came out to my parents
and siblings. Everyone has been very accepting and loving. The
problem is this: My younger sister told my uncle and aunt that I
am a lesbian. (It was not done maliciously.) They’re top-of-the-
line homophobes. They told my grandmother, who is now banning me
from Christmas festivities that we celebrate every year.

I told my parents to just go without me and, while reluctant,
they would like to go just to smooth things over. As we get
closer to Christmas, I am getting depressed at the thought of
being alone for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. I could go to
my friend’s house, but that seems pathetic. Please help!

It is not pathetic to spend Christmas with friends. I have
several friends joining me and my family for Christmas this
year, and I can’t wait for them to get here. I’ve spent
Christmas with family in the past, and I’ve spent Christmas with
friends in the past, and it’s always been meaningful and joyful.

That said, I think it’s fine if you want to tell your parents
that you’re feeling hurt about the prospect of being “banned”
from this year’s family celebration because you’re gay. You
don’t have to ask them not to go (although I’m inclined to think
that they shouldn’t), but you can still be honest with them
about how you’re feeling. It sounds like they care about and
support you, and I think they’d want to know if you’re having a
hard time. Even if they still decide to attend, you might feel
better for having stated your feelings out loud to them, and
they might be able to offer more meaningful support if they know
you’re struggling with this. —Danny M. Lavery

From: Help! My Grandma Found Out I’m Gay and Banned Me From
Christmas. (Dec. 19, 2016)

Go fucking kill yourself!
 

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