And if they refuse, and notice no men are evacuated:
They either fight for the Donetsk, and not Ukraine, or are shot.
That could be quite possible. Refuse to surrender, and you will get shot in war,
The men would be prisoners of war in my judgment, but Russia offering a way put for the men. Treatment of men could be messy as executions are assumed likely. I wouldn't know, not really my business. I naturally stay far away from such a situation.

Russian forces are sending Ukrainian citizens to “filtration camps” before forcibly relocating them to Russia, according to the accounts of two women who said they were transported to Russian territory from the besieged city of Mariupol last month.

“On 15 March, Russian troops stormed into our bomb shelter and ordered all the women and children to get out. It was not a choice,” said one woman who had been hiding with her family in a suburb of Mariupol since early March. “People need to know
the truth, that Ukrainians are being moved to Russia, the country that is occupying us.

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