On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169248684493.95692.3850990678782920635.XPN@5150.chad>):
After what's transpired, perhaps there's no chance that the friendship
could be mended wholly, but why not at least make steps towards
restoring it rather than constantly dumping fuel on the fire?
A public explanation of the years of gaslighting, manipulation,
back-channel gossip, slander, libel, and general betrayal would go a
long way in establishing a framework for restoration.
That an attempt hasn't yet been made speaks ill of Chad. He has a lot to
answer for, or at least explain.
Why doesn˘t John Henry DeJong apologize to his daughter, his brother, and anyone else he has sexually assaulted? Why doesn˘t he apologize for his grifting?
The predatory lifestyle of John Henry Dejong speaks ill of John Henry DeJong.
After what's transpired, perhaps there's no chance that the friendship
could be mended wholly, but why not at least make steps towards
restoring it rather than constantly dumping fuel on the fire?
A public explanation of the years of gaslighting, manipulation,
back-channel gossip, slander, libel, and general betrayal would go a
long way in establishing a framework for restoration.
That an attempt hasn't yet been made speaks ill of Chad. He has a lot to answer for, or at least explain.
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169248684493.95692.3850990678782920635.XPN@5150.chad>):
After what's transpired, perhaps there's no chance that the friendship could be mended wholly, but why not at least make steps towards
restoring it rather than constantly dumping fuel on the fire?
A public explanation of the years of gaslighting, manipulation, back-channel gossip, slander, libel, and general betrayal would go a
long way in establishing a framework for restoration.
That an attempt hasn't yet been made speaks ill of Chad. He has a lot to answer for, or at least explain.
Why doesn’t John Henry DeJong apologize to his daughter, his brother, and anyone else he has sexually assaulted? Why doesn’t he apologize for his grifting?
The predatory lifestyle of John Henry Dejong speaks ill of John Henry DeJong.
You're changing the subject.
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169249041646.80658.890255425819314827.XPN@5150.chad>):
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169248684493.95692.3850990678782920635.XPN@5150.chad>):
After what's transpired, perhaps there's no chance that the friendship >> > > could be mended wholly, but why not at least make steps towards
restoring it rather than constantly dumping fuel on the fire?
A public explanation of the years of gaslighting, manipulation,
back-channel gossip, slander, libel, and general betrayal would go a
long way in establishing a framework for restoration.
That an attempt hasn't yet been made speaks ill of Chad. He has a lot to >> > > answer for, or at least explain.
Why doesn˘t John Henry DeJong apologize to his daughter, his brother, and >> > anyone else he has sexually assaulted? Why doesn˘t he apologize for his
grifting?
The predatory lifestyle of John Henry Dejong speaks ill of John Henry
DeJong.
You're changing the subject.
You˘re a hypocrite, and a predator. Heal thyself, John Henry DeJong.
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169249041646.80658.890255425819314827.XPN@5150.chad>):
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169248684493.95692.3850990678782920635.XPN@5150.chad>):
After what's transpired, perhaps there's no chance that the friendship
could be mended wholly, but why not at least make steps towards restoring it rather than constantly dumping fuel on the fire?
A public explanation of the years of gaslighting, manipulation, back-channel gossip, slander, libel, and general betrayal would go a long way in establishing a framework for restoration.
That an attempt hasn't yet been made speaks ill of Chad. He has a lot to
answer for, or at least explain.
Why doesn’t John Henry DeJong apologize to his daughter, his brother, and
anyone else he has sexually assaulted? Why doesn’t he apologize for his
grifting?
The predatory lifestyle of John Henry Dejong speaks ill of John Henry DeJong.
You're changing the subject.
You’re a hypocrite, and a predator. Heal thyself, John Henry DeJong.
John stated in a recent post here that he made amends to those
he'd harmed whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them
or others; and he changed his behavior to avoid harming anyone else - including flat-out avoiding any sort of physical relationship for 18
years.
It's a shame that Chad won't even own up to his sins, much less engage
in atonement. A public apology would be a great place to start.
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169249426514.51465.16392571659712654152.XPN@5150.chad>):
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169249041646.80658.890255425819314827.XPN@5150.chad>):
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169248684493.95692.3850990678782920635.XPN@5150.chad>):
After what's transpired, perhaps there's no chance that the friendship
could be mended wholly, but why not at least make steps towards
restoring it rather than constantly dumping fuel on the fire?
A public explanation of the years of gaslighting, manipulation,
back-channel gossip, slander, libel, and general betrayal would go a >> > > > > long way in establishing a framework for restoration.
That an attempt hasn't yet been made speaks ill of Chad. He has a lot to
answer for, or at least explain.
Why doesn’t John Henry DeJong apologize to his daughter, his brother,
and
anyone else he has sexually assaulted? Why doesn’t he apologize for his
grifting?
The predatory lifestyle of John Henry Dejong speaks ill of John Henry >> > > > DeJong.
You're changing the subject.
You’re a hypocrite, and a predator. Heal thyself, John Henry DeJong.
John stated in a recent post here that he made amends to those
he'd harmed whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them
or others; and he changed his behavior to avoid harming anyone else -
including flat-out avoiding any sort of physical relationship for 18
years.
It's a shame that Chad won't even own up to his sins, much less engage
in atonement. A public apology would be a great place to start.
What did “Chad” do to you, John Henry DeJong? You have never even attempted to describe all of these heinous acts, nor have you provided any proof that “Chad” is responsible for any of them. Your paranoia and declining mental health are not proof.
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169249426514.51465.16392571659712654152.XPN@5150.chad>):
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169249041646.80658.890255425819314827.XPN@5150.chad>):
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169248684493.95692.3850990678782920635.XPN@5150.chad>): >>>>>>
After what's transpired, perhaps there's no chance that the friendship >>>>>>> could be mended wholly, but why not at least make steps towards
restoring it rather than constantly dumping fuel on the fire?
A public explanation of the years of gaslighting, manipulation,
back-channel gossip, slander, libel, and general betrayal would go a >>>>>>> long way in establishing a framework for restoration.
That an attempt hasn't yet been made speaks ill of Chad. He has a lot to
answer for, or at least explain.
Why doesn’t John Henry DeJong apologize to his daughter, his brother, >>>>>> and
anyone else he has sexually assaulted? Why doesn’t he apologize for his
grifting?
The predatory lifestyle of John Henry Dejong speaks ill of John Henry >>>>>> DeJong.
You're changing the subject.
You’re a hypocrite, and a predator. Heal thyself, John Henry DeJong.
John stated in a recent post here that he made amends to those
he'd harmed whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them
or others; and he changed his behavior to avoid harming anyone else -
including flat-out avoiding any sort of physical relationship for 18
years.
It's a shame that Chad won't even own up to his sins, much less engage
in atonement. A public apology would be a great place to start.
What did “Chad” do to you, John Henry DeJong? You have never even
attempted to describe all of these heinous acts, nor have you provided any >> proof that “Chad” is responsible for any of them. Your paranoia and
declining mental health are not proof.
I cannot speak for John, but he's already said a lot about the situation himself. e.g. in "The Morning Mess" article of May 30th of this year: https://johnhenry.us/blog/2023/05/30/morning-mess-may-30-2023/
“I’m not going to go on about this too much because it just feeds
the beast, but this is once again a pattern that I’ve been observing
for a long time.
Close friends with whom I’ve discussed it over the years know that I’ve suspected the source for well over a decade, but they finally slipped
and outed themselves beyond any reasonable doubt when trying to
recruit yet another troll to do their dirty work last week.
This person’s behavior is rooted in whisper campaigns and
back-room antics, ingratiating themselves to the clickbait crowd or
not realizing they outed themselves many, many times over the years.
It includes calling my new roommate – within literal hours of my
changing my address on my voter registration and domains, who I’ve mentioned previously has a terminal stage four cancer diagnosis so
that’s totally on-brand for le stalker, they did the same to my
parents’ last years – to harass them with similar lies, which was pointless.
It’s gross, sick, and obsessive. The person responsible has
been involuntarily committed to psychiatric confinement in the past,
and has tried repeatedly to con me into committing myself…often in
response to some emotional distress I’m experiencing that they
actually inflicted.
Going into the ugly details of that person is more attention than they deserve. Unfortunately I have a triggerable mental illness and they
know it and they know my triggers because they’ve been trying to
cuddle up to me for a quarter-century so it has to be spoken about a
little.
The evidence is sufficient for me, but not likely to be enough
to take to court and get a restraining order that wouldn’t do any good anyway.
Eventually they’ll crash and burn and end up back in the nice
white room with the soft walls, the only reason they’re not there now
is they’re predatory as hell and keep attaching themselves to insecure women with lots of money (this isn’t speculation; more than one of his partners has asked me to get him to stop in the past, as though that’s within my power). Their endgame for me is to leave me with nowhere
else to turn so they can play hero, like a fire-fighter who sets the
fires themselves so they can get the praise for putting them out.
The bottom line is this person has been trying to push me over the edge
of suicide for about twenty-five years because they resent me talking
them out of their own (and leaving them no honorable way to
rationalize it), and every time it doesn’t work they escalate with a
new low. In the end there’s no punishment worse for that person than
having to wake up every day being who they are and knowing they’re too
weak of character to ever be anything else.”
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169249426514.51465.16392571659712654152.XPN@5150.chad>):
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169249041646.80658.890255425819314827.XPN@5150.chad>):
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169248684493.95692.3850990678782920635.XPN@5150.chad>):
After what's transpired, perhaps there's no chance that the friendship
could be mended wholly, but why not at least make steps towards restoring it rather than constantly dumping fuel on the fire?
A public explanation of the years of gaslighting, manipulation, back-channel gossip, slander, libel, and general betrayal would go a
long way in establishing a framework for restoration.
That an attempt hasn't yet been made speaks ill of Chad. He has a lot
to
answer for, or at least explain.
Why doesn’t John Henry DeJong apologize to his daughter, his brother,
and
anyone else he has sexually assaulted? Why doesn’t he apologize for
his
grifting?
The predatory lifestyle of John Henry Dejong speaks ill of John Henry
DeJong.
You're changing the subject.
You’re a hypocrite, and a predator. Heal thyself, John Henry DeJong.
John stated in a recent post here that he made amends to those
he'd harmed whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them
or others; and he changed his behavior to avoid harming anyone else - including flat-out avoiding any sort of physical relationship for 18 years.
It's a shame that Chad won't even own up to his sins, much less engage
in atonement. A public apology would be a great place to start.
What did “Chad” do to you, John Henry DeJong? You have never even attempted to describe all of these heinous acts, nor have you provided any proof that “Chad” is responsible for any of them. Your paranoia and declining mental health are not proof.
I cannot speak for John,
but he's already said a lot about the situation
himself. e.g. in "The Morning Mess" article of May 30th of this year: https://johnhenry.us/blog/2023/05/30/morning-mess-may-30-2023/
“I’m not going to go on about this too much because it just feeds
the beast, but this is once again a pattern that I’ve been observing
for a long time.
Close friends with whom I’ve discussed it over the years know that I’ve suspected the source for well over a decade, but they finally slipped
and outed themselves beyond any reasonable doubt when trying to
recruit yet another troll to do their dirty work last week.
This person’s behavior is rooted in whisper campaigns and
back-room antics, ingratiating themselves to the clickbait crowd or
not realizing they outed themselves many, many times over the years.
It includes calling my new roommate – within literal hours of my
changing my address on my voter registration and domains, who I’ve mentioned previously has a terminal stage four cancer diagnosis so
that’s totally on-brand for le stalker, they did the same to my
parents’ last years – to harass them with similar lies, which was pointless.
It’s gross, sick, and obsessive. The person responsible has
been involuntarily committed to psychiatric confinement in the past,
and has tried repeatedly to con me into committing myself…often in
response to some emotional distress I’m experiencing that they
actually inflicted.
Going into the ugly details of that person is more attention than they deserve. Unfortunately I have a triggerable mental illness and they
know it and they know my triggers because they’ve been trying to
cuddle up to me for a quarter-century so it has to be spoken about a
little.
The evidence is sufficient for me, but not likely to be enough
to take to court and get a restraining order that wouldn’t do any good anyway.
Eventually they’ll crash and burn and end up back in the nice
white room with the soft walls, the only reason they’re not there now
is they’re predatory as hell and keep attaching themselves to insecure women with lots of money (this isn’t speculation; more than one of his partners has asked me to get him to stop in the past, as though that’s within my power). Their endgame for me is to leave me with nowhere
else to turn so they can play hero, like a fire-fighter who sets the
fires themselves so they can get the praise for putting them out.
The bottom line is this person has been trying to push me over the edge
of suicide for about twenty-five years because they resent me talking
them out of their own (and leaving them no honorable way to
rationalize it), and every time it doesn’t work they escalate with a
new low. In the end there’s no punishment worse for that person than
having to wake up every day being who they are and knowing they’re too
weak of character to ever be anything else.”
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169250061510.53765.3943535101631770677.XPN@5150.chad>):
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in
article<169249426514.51465.16392571659712654152.XPN@5150.chad>):
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in
article<169249041646.80658.890255425819314827.XPN@5150.chad>):
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in
article<169248684493.95692.3850990678782920635.XPN@5150.chad
):
After what's transpired, perhaps there's no chance that
the friendship could be mended wholly, but why not at
least make steps towards restoring it rather than
constantly dumping fuel on the fire?
A public explanation of the years of gaslighting,
manipulation, back-channel gossip, slander, libel, and
general betrayal would go a long way in establishing a
framework for restoration.
That an attempt hasn't yet been made speaks ill of Chad.
He has a lot to
answer for, or at least explain.
Why doesn’t John Henry DeJong apologize to his daughter,
his brother, and
anyone else he has sexually assaulted? Why doesn’t he
apologize for his
grifting?
The predatory lifestyle of John Henry Dejong speaks ill of
John Henry DeJong.
You're changing the subject.
You’re a hypocrite, and a predator. Heal thyself, John Henry
DeJong.
John stated in a recent post here that he made amends to those
he'd harmed whenever possible, except when to do so would injure
them or others; and he changed his behavior to avoid harming
anyone else - including flat-out avoiding any sort of physical
relationship for 18 years.
It's a shame that Chad won't even own up to his sins, much less
engage in atonement. A public apology would be a great place to
start.
What did “Chad” do to you, John Henry DeJong? You have never
even attempted to describe all of these heinous acts, nor have you
provided any proof that “Chad” is responsible for any of them.
Your paranoia and declining mental health are not proof.
I cannot speak for John,
You are John, John Henry DeJong.
but he's already said a lot about the situation
himself. e.g. in "The Morning Mess" article of May 30th of this year:
https://johnhenry.us/blog/2023/05/30/morning-mess-may-30-2023/
“I’m not going to go on about this too much because it just feeds
the beast, but this is once again a pattern that I’ve been
observing for a long time.
Close friends with whom I’ve discussed it over the years know that
I’ve suspected the source for well over a decade, but they finally
slipped and outed themselves beyond any reasonable doubt when trying
to recruit yet another troll to do their dirty work last week.
This person’s behavior is rooted in whisper campaigns and
back-room antics, ingratiating themselves to the clickbait crowd or
not realizing they outed themselves many, many times over the years.
It includes calling my new roommate – within literal hours of my
changing my address on my voter registration and domains, who I’ve
mentioned previously has a terminal stage four cancer diagnosis so
that’s totally on-brand for le stalker, they did the same to my
parents’ last years – to harass them with similar lies, which was
pointless.
It’s gross, sick, and obsessive. The person responsible has
been involuntarily committed to psychiatric confinement in the past,
and has tried repeatedly to con me into committing myself…often in
response to some emotional distress I’m experiencing that they
actually inflicted.
Going into the ugly details of that person is more attention than
they deserve. Unfortunately I have a triggerable mental illness and
they know it and they know my triggers because they’ve been trying
to cuddle up to me for a quarter-century so it has to be spoken about
a little.
The evidence is sufficient for me, but not likely to be enough
to take to court and get a restraining order that wouldn’t do any
good anyway.
Eventually they’ll crash and burn and end up back in the nice
white room with the soft walls, the only reason they’re not there
now is they’re predatory as hell and keep attaching themselves to
insecure women with lots of money (this isn’t speculation; more
than one of his partners has asked me to get him to stop in the past,
as though that’s within my power). Their endgame for me is to leave
me with nowhere else to turn so they can play hero, like a
fire-fighter who sets the fires themselves so they can get the praise
for putting them out.
The bottom line is this person has been trying to push me over the
edge of suicide for about twenty-five years because they resent me
talking them out of their own (and leaving them no honorable way to
rationalize it), and every time it doesn’t work they escalate with
a new low. In the end there’s no punishment worse for that person
than having to wake up every day being who they are and knowing
they’re too weak of character to ever be anything else.”
None of this is proof of “Chad” doing anything, John Henry DeJong,
It's simply a manifestation of your paranoia and other mental
illnesses that you refuse to treat.
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169249426514.51465.16392571659712654152.XPN@5150.chad>):
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169249041646.80658.890255425819314827.XPN@5150.chad>):
Taro Tsujimoto wrote:
On 19Aug2023, Matt Burns wrote
(in article<169248684493.95692.3850990678782920635.XPN@5150.chad>): >>>>>>
After what's transpired, perhaps there's no chance that the friendship >>>>>>> could be mended wholly, but why not at least make steps towards
restoring it rather than constantly dumping fuel on the fire?
A public explanation of the years of gaslighting, manipulation,
back-channel gossip, slander, libel, and general betrayal would go a >>>>>>> long way in establishing a framework for restoration.
That an attempt hasn't yet been made speaks ill of Chad. He has a lot to
answer for, or at least explain.
Why doesn’t John Henry DeJong apologize to his daughter, his brother, >>>>>> and
anyone else he has sexually assaulted? Why doesn’t he apologize for his
grifting?
The predatory lifestyle of John Henry Dejong speaks ill of John Henry >>>>>> DeJong.
You're changing the subject.
You’re a hypocrite, and a predator. Heal thyself, John Henry DeJong.
John stated in a recent post here that he made amends to those
he'd harmed whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them
or others; and he changed his behavior to avoid harming anyone else -
including flat-out avoiding any sort of physical relationship for 18
years.
It's a shame that Chad won't even own up to his sins, much less engage
in atonement. A public apology would be a great place to start.
What did “Chad” do to you, John Henry DeJong? You have never even
attempted to describe all of these heinous acts, nor have you provided any >> proof that “Chad” is responsible for any of them. Your paranoia and
declining mental health are not proof.
I cannot speak for John, but he's already said a lot about the situation himself. e.g. in "The Morning Mess" article of May 30th of this year: https://johnhenry.us/blog/2023/05/30/morning-mess-may-30-2023/
“I’m not going to go on about this too much because it just feeds
the beast, but this is once again a pattern that I’ve been observing
for a long time.
Close friends with whom I’ve discussed it over the years know that I’ve suspected the source for well over a decade, but they finally slipped
and outed themselves beyond any reasonable doubt when trying to
recruit yet another troll to do their dirty work last week.
This person’s behavior is rooted in whisper campaigns and
back-room antics, ingratiating themselves to the clickbait crowd or
not realizing they outed themselves many, many times over the years.
It includes calling my new roommate – within literal hours of my
changing my address on my voter registration and domains, who I’ve mentioned previously has a terminal stage four cancer diagnosis so
that’s totally on-brand for le stalker, they did the same to my
parents’ last years – to harass them with similar lies, which was pointless.
It’s gross, sick, and obsessive. The person responsible has
been involuntarily committed to psychiatric confinement in the past,
and has tried repeatedly to con me into committing myself…often in
response to some emotional distress I’m experiencing that they
actually inflicted.
Going into the ugly details of that person is more attention than they deserve. Unfortunately I have a triggerable mental illness and they
know it and they know my triggers because they’ve been trying to
cuddle up to me for a quarter-century so it has to be spoken about a
little.
The evidence is sufficient for me, but not likely to be enough
to take to court and get a restraining order that wouldn’t do any good anyway.
Eventually they’ll crash and burn and end up back in the nice
white room with the soft walls, the only reason they’re not there now
is they’re predatory as hell and keep attaching themselves to insecure women with lots of money (this isn’t speculation; more than one of his partners has asked me to get him to stop in the past, as though that’s within my power). Their endgame for me is to leave me with nowhere
else to turn so they can play hero, like a fire-fighter who sets the
fires themselves so they can get the praise for putting them out.
The bottom line is this person has been trying to push me over the edge
of suicide for about twenty-five years because they resent me talking
them out of their own (and leaving them no honorable way to
rationalize it), and every time it doesn’t work they escalate with a
new low. In the end there’s no punishment worse for that person than
having to wake up every day being who they are and knowing they’re too
weak of character to ever be anything else.”
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