No. 1 life regret of dying patients: I see it 'all the time,' says
psychology expert--what to do 'before it's too late'
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In their last days, many of her patients shared with her their
regrets. The most common answer, according to Ware, was: "I wish I had
the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others
expected of me."
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For eight years, Bronnie Ware was an in-home caregiver who looked
after people who were dying. Her clients knew they were severely ill,
and most were in the last three to 12 weeks of their lives.

But Ware gradually realized that the most important role she was
playing was not physical, but emotional. She was there to listen, and
she catalogued those intimate reflections her book, "The Top Five
Regrets of the Dying."

https://www.cnbc.com/2023/11/17/the-no-1-regret-of-the-dying-i-see-it-all-the-time-says-psychologist-what-he-does-to-stop-it-now.html

Leaving the "rat race" may have consequences.....YMMV.

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On Tue, 21 Nov 2023 12:40:48 -0500
Retrograde <fungus@amongus.com.invalid> wrote:

JAB <here@is.invalid> writes:

For eight years, Bronnie Ware was an in-home caregiver who looked
after people who were dying. Her clients knew they were severely ill,
and most were in the last three to 12 weeks of their lives.

But Ware gradually realized that the most important role she was
playing was not physical, but emotional. She was there to listen, and
she catalogued those intimate reflections her book, "The Top Five
Regrets of the Dying."

So I finally got my hands on a copy of Ms. Ware's book. Pretty good
stuff, although predictable and in my opinion slightly lengthier than necessary. For the curious, here are the big regrets:

1: I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the
life others expected of me
2: I wish I hadn't worked so hard
3: I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings
4: I wish I'd stayed in touch with my friends
5: I wish I had let myself be happier

Lots of lessons from a person focused on the big picture, exposed to
the awful final moments of lives nearing their conclusion, in a
not-too-preachy voice. Good book.

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On Sat, 20 Jan 2024 18:09:42 -0500, Retrograde
<fungus@amongus.com.invalid> wrote:

Lots of lessons

Reflections can be relative to experiences, and as such, can be biased
for a lack of not having other experiences.

2: I wish I hadn't worked so hard

Lower wage earners may put a great effort in having their children do
better economically than them...so the tradeoff, fuck them little
bastards, and enjoy my life?

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On Sat, 20 Jan 2024 18:09:42 -0500, Retrograde
<fungus@amongus.com.invalid> wrote:

"The Top Five Regrets of the Dying."

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's "Stages of Dying" was based from an observer's
view with one summation being "the reluctance of people to accept
death as part of life."

If this is true in Ware's book,

1: I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the
life others expected of me
2: I wish I hadn't worked so hard
3: I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings
4: I wish I'd stayed in touch with my friends
5: I wish I had let myself be happier

I can only wonder how rational these people were? But, when examing
Ms Ware's background

Bronnie Ware (born 19 February 1967)[1] is an Australian author,
songwriter and motivational speaker best known for her writings about
the top deathbed regrets she heard during her time as a palliative
carer[2][3] described in her book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bronnie_Ware

I see the "motivational speaker" description, and I associate these
people with profit motives, while spewing out BS.

2: I wish I hadn't worked so hard

I have no idea what reference frame this came from, but I'd like to
hear about a rational argument for Gold Bricking. Whinners...

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