"For the past three years, Lance Walker has been locked in a
cat-and-mouse game with his 11-year-old daughter for control over her
iPhone and iPad." (etc)
I was reading several examples of this kind of "kid vs parent" stuff
when parents COMPLETELY "get it wrong" when it comes to smart phones and
their kids using stupid things like TikTok or play games at all hours of
the day and night, etc. etc. etc..
It's all very very simple: kids are often techy savvy hackers who need
an outlet for all of that, and their parents seem to be trying to rely
on "parental controls" instead of TEACHING SELF DISCIPLINE.
To me it is obvious: If the kid can't use the smart phone properly, let
them use a DUMB PHONE INSTEAD, or buy their OWN phone and data plan.
If they cannot do homework on their own computer instead of playing
games all night, have them do their homework on DAD's computer instead,
and the other one gets a re-format and clean OS install.
But relying on "parental controls" is just IDIOTIC because their minds
love puzzles and the challenge of rebelliously defeating them so they
can brag to their friends and post youtue videos on how to do it.
The 11 year old girl mentioned at the beginning of the article was
apparently getting e-mail from adult male pervs because of a video she
posted. I have to ask WHY she was even allowed to instal TikTok in the
And when it comes to cyber-bullying, why are these kids even ON FaeceBan
or Twatter or ANY of these so-called "social" media sewers?
If parents explain to them why they do NOT want to do this kind of crap,
with REAL WORLD examples of why it is bad (like attracting the attention
of adult perverts, for example) and THEN tie a level of trust along with
the PERMISSION to use YOUR paid for networks and electricity to use
their computers and devices, they'll show a bit more respect and at
LEAST put on a face of not doing this kind of crap when you're not
looking, because you establish a level of trust BEFORE they get the new computer or iPad or whatever.
People used to give rifles to their 12 year old sons. The boys knew
that they weren't supposed to use it improperly BEFORE ever getting the
rifle. It IS possible to establish this kind of trust. And the kid who
did NOT get the rifle because he was an irresponsible FOOL was possibly
shunned and made fun of to some extent by the others.
I could wrap this back to the STUPID mentality of "big mommy" government control of everyone's lives as a substitute for REAL parenting, but then
again these things SHOULD be obvious, at least to HACKERS.
It's just that it's a PARENT'S job to teach kids to MAKE INTELLIGENT
DECISIONS. After all, in only a few years, they're 18 and on their own.
Or at least they SHOULD be... *NOT* living in mommy's basement.
(aka 'Bombastic Bob' in case you wondered)
'Feeling with my fingers, and thinking with my brain' - me
'your story is so touching, but it sounds just like a lie'
"Straighten up and fly right"